Sex in the real world

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Genesis 2.24

The Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.

Malachi 2.24

God’s general purpose* for people is heterosexual, monogamous marriage.

The Bible tells us when two people of opposite sexes are joined together in marriage, there is a bonding, a new togetherness, an emotional attachment and a mysterious oneness.

Once you are married, you no longer live just considering yourself; there is a new bond with your spouse.

Sexual oneness demonstrates and evidences this oneness of marriage.

It is extremely dangerous, therefore, to be sexually active before marriage; the emotional baggage simply piles up.

This will sound very strange to most people today.

Continue reading Sex in the real world

Homosexuality (still) isn’t the new black

The Dutch Reformed Church in South Africa voted in 2015 to permit those in same-sex relationships to serve as ministers.  The synod also voted to permit same-sex unions to be blessed in Dutch Reformed churches. That decision was then appealed in 2016.

At present the DRC is experiencing huge turmoil as the issue of sexuality continues to be debated.1

Many of those who were pleased with the synod’s original  decision to permit same-sex marriage equate discrimination towards those who practice homosexuality as essentially the same as the discrimination towards black people under apartheid.

For them, the 2015 synod’s decision was a great moment of liberation to be celebrated.2

However, homosexuality is not the new black.

Continue reading Homosexuality (still) isn’t the new black

4 unpopular truths about gender and sexuality

Many years ago, there were relatively very few issues around sexuality and gender.

It was largely accepted that there were only two genders and you were either one or the other.

It was largely accepted that males’ anatomy was designed for sexual intimacy with females, vice versa.

It was largely accepted that the best, safest, and most secure place for sexual intimacy was marriage.

It was largely accepted that marriage was between one woman and one man.

Today, these concepts are no longer widely accepted.

Continue reading 4 unpopular truths about gender and sexuality