Sex in the real world

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Genesis 2.24

The Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.

Malachi 2.24

God’s general purpose* for people is heterosexual, monogamous marriage.

The Bible tells us when two people of opposite sexes are joined together in marriage, there is a bonding, a new togetherness, an emotional attachment and a mysterious oneness.

Once you are married, you no longer live just considering yourself; there is a new bond with your spouse.

Sexual oneness demonstrates and evidences this oneness of marriage.

It is extremely dangerous, therefore, to be sexually active before marriage; the emotional baggage simply piles up.

This will sound very strange to most people today.


Sex has a price-tag

A World War II venereal disease poster

As I read the CNN article, “STD rates reach record high in United States”, I remembered watching (twenty years ago) the DVD, “Sex has a price-tag” by Pam Stenzel.

Pam, while speaking to high school learners, made the point that condoms may prevent pregnancy, but they certainly don’t protect one from a whole host of venereal or sexually transmitted diseases. Pam’s point is even more urgent today.


Fifty Shades of Porn

imagesFURPJ7UOThe release of the movie Fifty Shades of Grey has caused quite a stir.  Porn is now masqueraded as the sexual empowerment of women.  Has the world finally gone crazy?  A recent TIME magazine article reminded readers that while this movie ventures into the realms of bondage, sadomasochism and female degradation, more and more  newspaper headlines concern sexual violence directed towards young women.  “The Hunting Game”, a documentary about campus rape is soon to be released.  There is an ever-growing list of accusations against rich older men who take sexual advantage of women who are subordinates1.  Just watch the news.

marriage Sex Survey

Meeting and Mating

A recent survey on Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think About Marriage exploded these popular myths:

  • long-term exclusivity is a fiction.
  • the introduction of sex is necessary in order to sustain a fledging or struggling relationship.
  • the sexual double standard is inherently wrong and must be resisted by any means.
  • boys will be boys. That is, men can’t be expected to abide by the sexual terms that women may wish to set.
  • porn won’t affect your relationships.
  • everyone else is having more fun than you are.
  • sex need not mean anything.
  • marriage can always wait.
  • moving in together is definitely a step toward marriage.
  • It seems like the Bible’s guidelines for sex in marriage are not so old fashioned after all.